Bill Hybels Accuser Vonda Dyer, Who Was Called a Liar, Rejects Willow Creek’s Apology

Vonda Dyer, a former Willow Creek Community Church staff member who was called a liar by the church’s embattled founder, Bill Hybels, after she joined multiple women to publicly accuse him of sexual misconduct in March, rejected an “apology” that church elders issued this week in which they admitted to making some missteps.

“I’ve been in contact with an elder from Willow recently and was aware of this gesture. Willow is fully aware of what ownership would and should look like if they were to come clean on these matters. Reaching out to me may have also been only a gesture. If it was partially well meaning, it still lacked any intention from Willow Creek to reveal what they are hiding. I have spoken my heartfelt thoughts about the chasm that lies between the allegations and Willow Creek leadership’s longstanding, inadequate investigations in my responses to this elder who reached out, and who happens to also be a 20-year friend in ministry,” Vonda Dyer said in a statement on Facebook Thursday.

“As far as I can tell from their statement, they have not moved to say they believe Bill has lied.

“If women are telling the truth, then Bill has lied. If Bill has lied, they are still protecting him and themselves, and the people in response are giving all of their leaders who misled and continue to mislead this charge rousing standing ovations,” she continued. “These serious allegations call for gut-wrenching, face-on-the-floor sorrow and confession, not standing ovations. Church, have we no soul? Have we lost our theological minds?”

Two days before Hybels announced his premature retirement from the helm of Willow Creek Community Church on April 10, Dyer elaborated how she was railroaded out of her job after she rejected perceived sexual advances from him as a staffer while on a trip in Sweden in February 1998.

Dyer told the Chicago Tribune in March that she had to flee from Hybels’ hotel room when he made sexual advances toward her. She detailed on her blog how Hybels had invited her to his hotel room without her husband present for a leadership talk. While in his room, she alleged that he described in “great detail specific parts of my body he liked,” called her “sexy,” said “we could lead Willow together,” put his hands on her waist and kissed her.

Hybels told his congregation and the Chicago Tribune that Dyer’s version of their meeting was false and that he neither touched nor kissed her. He said he would deny that took place until his dying breath.

“I’ve never had an unkind word or a falling-out of any kind” with Dyer, Hybels told the Chicago Tribune. “I’ve never had a cross conversation with her. Then, in the last four weeks, a story from [1998] with untrue allegations, pops up right at the same time that these other ones are being molded together to discredit my ministry. And I’m like, how convenient.”

The suburban Chicago church’s elder board had an internal and external investigation done to look into several women’s allegations against Hybels — which include suggestive comments, extended hugs, an unwanted kiss, invitations to hotel rooms, and a consensual affair with a married woman, who retracted her claims. The probes cleared Hybels of any misconduct.

Pam Orr, chair of the elder board, insisted at the time that she was confident that the church’s investigations were thorough and reliable, despite protests from former Willow Creek staff who called the probes “poorly designed.”

“We felt really good about the conclusions that we came to, and then put the matter to rest,” Orr told the Tribune in March.

In a statement released by the church late Wednesday, Orr offered a general apology to the women who have accused Hybels and revealed that she will step down from her role as chair of Willow Creek’s elder board at the end of this month with a broken heart.

“Our top priority has been reaching out to the women who have made allegations against Bill. We have talked with several of them and are deeply saddened by the experiences they are sharing with us. We do believe we owe these women some apologies,” Orr said.

“The tone of our first response had too much emphasis on defending Bill and cast some of the women in an unfair and negative light. We are sorry. Initially, it was stated that the stories were all lies and the individuals involved were colluding against Bill. We apologize for those sweeping statements. We do not believe the stories were all lies or that all the people were colluding against him. It takes courage for a woman to step forward and share her story, and we are doing everything we can to listen respectfully.”

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Source: Christian Post

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